Life is all relative. Some people say, “I am not successful”, “I am unlucky in love”, “I drive a junker of a car”, “I don’t make friends easily”, “life is hard”. And I say, it is all relative. The bar you set and compare yourself to is not the same bar other people may be using. So your comparison? Well it isn’t universal.
On Friday I went to Orange theory fitness for a workout. Hey now…I encourage and motivate you daily in your workouts, but be clear, I need encouragement and motivation too. Especially since my kickboxing coach is in AZ, and I am now 2 months post world championships, about 17lbs heavier, drinking vanilla lattes, and getting farther from being “fight ready” every day. So in effort to get on the band wagon- I am going to fight in the Brazil World cup in May- and get back in shape I sought out a little support (from my competition no less).
I signed in and filled out my waiver and proceeded to say, “I am out of shape”. The teacher went into a little bit of a overview asking me to be really careful and not push too much my first time. I replied with, “Well, saying I am out of shape, is relative”.
And it is. I am comparing myself to myself. And in all honesty I think it is what we need to do to find inspiration. I know what kind of fitness level I have achieved and I know that I fall far below that right now, so for me, I am out of shape.
However, half way through my class, Sacha (the teach), said to me, “What was it you said? It is all relative? YEAH right!” I heard her loud and clear, according to the average first timers I excelled in the class and was not even on the “out of shape” radar.
I needed this reminder. Comparing myself to myself is really the best opportunity for me to grow. When I look outside myself at other people and compare, in so many things I feel I fall short.
Instead, when I look to the progress I’ve made within myself I can be encouraged and motivated rather than looking at others thinking how much farther along they are than I am.
I do a great job of comparing myself to self in fitness (hence the out of shape feeling that is so true for me). Yet in other areas that I am tackling, i.e., building my business, getting acquainted with social media threads like twitter and Facebook, I feel so inadequate. I realize this is because I am comparing myself to media presences, personalities, and individuals that have been at it much longer than me and have a lot more experience.
When I step back and look at my forward movement since I began these endeavors into web media, I can see that I am “getting in shape” in a very rapid time line. I am making progress quickly and learning fast. Yeah me!
It takes some effort- it always does when it matters- but I am not discouraged when I look at my starting point and see where I am now only a few months later. And this is the benefit of self-comparison.
Do you tend to look at others or outside of yourself to gauge your successes? If so what are you comparing yourself to? Someone or something that has had a lot more time, effort, and energy behind it than you?
You will benefit if you take a look at your own progress and goals and compare it to where you were last month, 6 months ago, or even last year. Give yourself some credit! Share with me below how you are rocking your ‘then’ vs. your ‘now’.
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