I’m learning that my level of growth is directly related to my level of self-love.
When I’m not loving myself I’m unable to learn from obstacles, struggles, and disappointments because I wear them as a thick coat of self-loathing, failure, and evidence of my unworthiness.
Self-loathing says I’m a victim of rejection. It’s difficult to grow through rejection.
Self-love says I’m bound to interact with people who don’t share my vision and rejection is a learning experience to help me narrow down my tribe. I can grow through that.
Self-loathing says I’m a victim of failed endeavors and I should just give up. It’s difficult to grow when you’re giving up.
Self-love says I’m bound to falter when trying new things and it’s an opportunity to discover the exact right method for my success. I can grow through that.
Self-loathing says that I’m a victim of my thoughts and negative patterns. That nothing will ever change. It’s difficult to grow when you’re unwilling believe you can retrain your brain.
Self-love says that my thoughts and patterns are plastic, able to mold to daily practices that I can choose to change at will and with commitment. I can grow through that.
Fierce growth, the kind that happens in leaps and bounds, the kind that whips peoples heads around and makes them say “how the heck did they do that?”, takes fierce love.
Love yourself first & fierce.
It’s the #1 rule of self-defense I teach in the I AM Initiative, my girls self-empowerment program, and also what I recommend when you want to….
Lose weight. Get in shape. Find a new career. Build your entrepreneurial empire. Design your life. Create loving relationships. Follow your dreams. Do the thing others might think is impossible.
Fierce growth requires fierce love.