Hey summer lover,
Are you a summer lover? I am. It’s my time. The sun is out, my flip flops live with me (when I’m not barefoot), and the hammock I got for my birthday in June is getting some great use.
You know, these playlists are something I love to share because I adore music but I also love sharing a story or lesson I’m learning with each month too. So let’s dive in.
I listen to a song of the day every day and even though July has 31 days this months list only has 28 songs. The lesson: Make Space.
Sometimes you need to not fill up your life with this and that. It’s a hard thing. People ask how you’re doing, what’s up, and it seems the most popular answer is…
“I’ve been so busy”.
Cool. It’s good to be busy and have a fulfilling life. But busy doesn’t leave a lot of space. And if it’s important for you to slow down and enjoy, then letting some of that go, and making space is an opportunity for more presence to enter your life.
There’s other places it’s good to make space and I’ll share a couple I experienced this month. They both required a little letting go for me and that’s the caveat to making space…we only have so much room in our life so if we want more space then we might need to let go of a few things.
LESSON 1 – LET GO OF RESENTMENTS
I love my sis, her kids, her family. I’ve had more of a difficult time learning to love her husband. For whatever reason we don’t gel well and it’s caused some friction. I want everyone to like me and since he’s not my biggest fan it’s been difficult. I realized that I had to let go of whatever isn’t working between us (maybe we’ll figure it out eventually) so that I could make space to spend time with my sister and her sprites who I love the most. This month I took a day with them and we visited Valleyfair (it was their first time). It was an epic 9 hour day and I spent the night hanging with my sis too. Letting go of the hurt or disappointment that I felt when interacting with her hubs was needed to make space for the total love and thrill I get with my time with them. The lesson here is don’t hold resentments. Let them go so you can make space for more love.
LESSON 2- LET GO OF THOSE WHO DON’T LOVE YOU
Okay, Okay…I know I’ve spent a couple of these playlist write ups chatting about my personal dating life which isn’t something I originally intended to do but it is a HUGE part of my single, dating life and so here goes…I got trapped a bit in settling for what was out there and available. It took up a lot of space and I actually decided to let it go. Scary as that seemed (because I don’t want to be alone) I also know the truth that when something takes up space it doesn’t allow something new to come in. If you doubt me take a look at this awesome, short, and brilliant post by Danielle Laporte on the Divine Law of the Ugly Chair. I’ll say this, letting go of my dating version of the “ugly chair” allowed me to spend a wonderful afternoon in a hammock with someone new. And now we’ll just see. But you won’t ever have a chance if you don’t make the space. The lesson here is don’t settle for less love than you deserve.
A few of my favorites from this month’s list:
This song. I listened to it on repeat and I TOTALLY got into listening to it on Tuesdays in July. I love the line “I can’t promise you a new day”. But listen closely and the lyrics are all about creating a new day. I got into this one and danced on the bed a few times to it.
Thread- Saint Raymond
This song is about not letting go. It even says so in the words “I can’t let go”. But my love, I listened to this one A LOT in July and I realized you do hafta let go. I promise. If you want to make space in love, you must let go of those that don’t love you.
Sea Salt- Chase Coy
It just feels good to listen to this song. I like the lyrics too but I don’t want to get too deep. Sometimes you just need to dance to a good beat. But it’s always okay to have courage…and according to these lyrics Chase has something to say to someone. I hope he works up the courage AND I hope you always have the courage to say what you need to say and also let go of what isn’t working in your life.
The theme this month is all about making space. So I encourage you to do an internal AND external inventory in your life and see what you can let go of so that you open up some space for magic and awesomeness to find you. You need to make space for it my dear. We all do.